As most of you know, Miguel and I are roommates. We moved in together in August 2013 after being together for a little over two years. I kind of mention more about it in this post, but we lived near one another for three years, so once I graduated it seemed logical to move in together.
We have officially lived together for four months now, and I can proudly say that I couldn’t be happier with our decision. I can also say, with confidence, that learning to live with your boyfriend isn’t always the easiest task. To prove this point, I thought up a few ‘inevitable arguments”, meaning things that I believe most couples will argue over at one point or another. Please note that this list isn’t to focus on the negatives but to laugh at the little things that “matter.”
1. The dishes
What should you hand wash? What should you put in the dishwasher? How often should you run the dishwasher? Should you dry the hand-washed dishes or let them air dry? Believe it or not, it’s usually Miguel yelling at me for not doing the dishes. “I’m blogging!” is usually my excuse. Heh….I think it’s smart to establish some sort of system to keep your kitchen looking more adult-like and less college student-like, if ya know what I mean.
2. What the word “clean” means
To me, clean means dusting the furniture, sweeping, mopping the floor–the whole nine yards. To Miguel, clean means picking up clutter and then watching TV. It’s his reward to himself for all of his hard work 😉 In my opinion, I think it’s smart to divide the house/apartment so you each have to clean an equal number of rooms so neither one of you feels overworked. I think it’s also a good idea to plan cleaning days in advance so you can both mentally prepare for the thrill.
3. How to squeeze the toothpaste
So silly, right? Do you squeeze from the end or the middle of the toothpaste? There’s no right or wrong answer, but chances are you both squeeze the toothpaste differently, which can lead to an argument when someone is tired one night (I might be referring to myself). It’s good to make sure you’re on the same page with this one (or maybe that’ just me being super anal?)
4. How to manage free time
Since I am a morning person, I often times wake up with the urge to be productive. Miguel on the other hand, is a night owl and therefore takes awhile to wake up in the morning. Carving out productivity time on the weekends is important but is something we struggle with sometimes. If it were up to me, I’d like to get everything for the day done by noon, while he’d prefer to relax a bit before starting his day. Thankfully, this doesn’t have to be a major issue. I can’t expect him to wake up in a jolly mood ready to take on any task that comes his way, just like he can’t expect me to be wide awake at 10 pm. It’s important to take each other into consideration and to be flexible with plans, especially on the weekends.
5. To Nutella, or not to Nutella
Yes, has been an argument for us (ok maybe a half argument). Though I’m assuming it’s not as common among other couples, I had to include it in this list. I always vote no Nutella in the apartment because I can’t control myself and Miguel votes yes because he only eats one spoonful per week (I will never understand how this is possible). Lucky for him, I don’t get too upset if he wins this one, though my stomach usually does the next day.
That’s what I’ve got so far. Truth be told we don’t argue about much, but I think this is a realistic list, as silly as some of them may sound. Men and woman are different and have different habits. I think part of the fun of moving in together for the first time is learning these things about one another and figuring out how to work them out. Compromise is a beautiful thing and it’s important to remember to choose your battles 🙂 Some nights, the dishes can wait and squeezing the toothpaste from the middle is just easier, and that’s perfectly fine with me.
Q: Have you ever argued about any of these things? What’s something “stupid” that you and your significant other have argued about?